As a single woman, I was asked why I was on a dating site if I didn’t want to put out on a first date. He was ANGRY — who the hell was I to deny a man access to my body?!
I’ve been told that sex by the third date, at most, is expected, and that I’ve cut my chances of developing a friendship potentially leading to a partnership are a fraction of what they could be.
Good God in Heaven! Are there so many women whose hearts and minds are so completely disconnected from their bodies? All I can and do say is, I’m a package deal.
Might this arrogance on the part of the selected men be due to the well-known fact that women routinely "swipe left on" (= reject out of hand, because the women regard them as "below average" - even though that is mathematically impossible) 100 men on the dating sites for every man on whom they "swipe right" (= drool over)?
And the lucky one-in-a-hundred (so-called "Chads") know that they are amongst the lucky few, and exploit their envied position with total brutality.
The implication in your anecdote is that these are just "typical Joes" who are behaving in such an entitled fashion. But if I know that I am among the select few who haven't been ignominiously rejected, then you can expect me to feel entitled.
Regards,
When my mom dated online, she got a lot of that, too. Trust me, these guys were nothing particularly special. It was supposed to be common knowledge that those websites were for booty calls.
Some of my generation (Millennials) and younger have, “consent lists” or contracts that can be shared with one another so each knows what the other is willing to do or what they’ll refuse. The series on Netflix, “Daybreak” has an example of this in one of the episodes.
I was lucky that I never had to worry about it. I went from one long-term relationship to another without searching due to fortuious circumstances. While I have a ridiculous libido, I was never willing to partake in one night stands despite my low self-esteem; I’m incapable of physical intimacy without emotional attachment, and trying to force it would be bad news for all involved.
However, communication between partners is a necessity, and if a woman insists on one-nighters, she has to be aware of the risks.
The abandonment of the role of fathers leads young women to have unmet needs that should have been affirmed by her father. I see the feminist movement partly responsible.
It used to be young boys looked at biology books to see things. Now they are learning evil things from Satan himself. Love has become lust. But woman want to be valued not used for someone else’s gratification.
Blame your fellow women for creating the environment.
So many women want the same subset of desirable men (tall, handsome, good job, self-confident, witty) that the men of this desirable subset know that if you aren't agreeable to sex early in the relationship, the next girl probably will. So they move on quickly if the date does not meet their expectations, because there's always another girl wanting to go out with him.
Try shorter men with non-Adonis bodies, and they will likely be more agreeable to your terms.