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After my unborn son's fatal diagnosis, doctors seemed determined to change my 'choice'
Yahoo! ^ | 10-28-21 | Monica Canetta

Posted on 10/28/2021 9:59:47 AM PDT by Tired of Taxes

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I was in the dark shadows of the ultrasound room when I first heard the words “incompatible with life.” I didn’t understand. He was already alive. I could see his tiny heart beating on the screen. What followed was a flurry of phone calls and doctor appointments and second opinions and more ultrasounds, all of which confirmed the news that my son had Trisomy 18, a life-threatening condition that is usually fatal before birth or within the first year of life.

I was devastated. But I also knew without even the slightest doubt that I wanted to give my baby every chance modern medicine could provide. I underestimated, however, how hard it would be to find a doctor who supported my choice.

The profession certainly made it clear that it supported the choice to terminate. I was still reeling from the ultrasound when the doctor who delivered the news began pressuring me to have a possibly risky and invasive amniocentesis – a procedure to remove some of the amniotic fluid that protects the baby – just hours later. When I declined, the doctor pressed harder, saying further testing was needed to have more "choices." Instead, that day my husband and I gave the baby his name, which is Hebrew for “gift from God.”

In the weeks that followed, a parade of doctors pushed a slew of tests on me. For more choices – that was always their justification. Never mind that I had already made my choice, they only seemed determined to change it. Not once did I hear the words I so craved: “Don’t worry about it. What do you want to do? I will help you.”

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TOPICS: Culture/Society
KEYWORDS: bidenvoters; prolife
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1 posted on 10/28/2021 9:59:47 AM PDT by Tired of Taxes
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To: Tired of Taxes

My heart goes out to someone who is told their unborn child has a Trisomy diagnosis.

I gave birth to a child born with Trisomy 13 and I thank God my doctor was pro-life. He did NOT once bring up abortion and neither did any of his staff or staff at the hospital where I was going for fetal monitoring prior to birth. What I learned was many more doctors and the staff were pro-life.

This was over 25 years ago and I just can’t imagine the pressure now to abort. We had an hour with him after his birth before he passed away. No regrets.


2 posted on 10/28/2021 10:07:35 AM PDT by hsmomx3
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To: Tired of Taxes

3 posted on 10/28/2021 10:08:01 AM PDT by Kevmo (I’m immune from Covid since I don’t watch TV.🤗)
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I lost a niece to this. She also was born and passed in the arms of her loving parents. She has a twin that is growing up healthy and strong.


5 posted on 10/28/2021 10:14:40 AM PDT by mmichaels1970
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To: Tired of Taxes

Uplifting read, thanks for posting.


6 posted on 10/28/2021 10:15:26 AM PDT by Navy Patriot (Celebrate Decivilization)
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To: Tired of Taxes

My wife and I were given a similar diagnosis for one of our daughters. We refused the amniocenesis so the guess of ‘trisomy 18’ was based on 2nd level ultrasounds comparing head circumference to thigh length and a few other measurements. For months trisomy 18 was the expectation until the end when they ‘back off from that assessment.’ To their credit no involved medical professional ever suggested ‘termination’ nor would we have followed such a suggestion anyway.

She was small at birth and is still of small stature but is a smart, active and healthy pre-teen now.


7 posted on 10/28/2021 10:16:25 AM PDT by posterchild
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To: posterchild

Your daughter is a precious gift from God. God bless her!!


8 posted on 10/28/2021 10:18:15 AM PDT by hsmomx3
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To: mmichaels1970

So sorry for the loss of your niece and glad to hear her twin is thriving.


9 posted on 10/28/2021 10:19:06 AM PDT by hsmomx3
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To: Tired of Taxes

Always choose life.


10 posted on 10/28/2021 10:22:26 AM PDT by precisionshootist
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To: Tired of Taxes

Life is precious. Life deserves every chance.

“Naked I came into this world, and naked I will leave. The Lord giveth, and the Lord taketh away. Blessed be the name of the Lord!”

- Job 1:21

I never knew the power behind what Job said in that scripture until personal tragedy struck my family. It took years for me to get it. To praise God regardless of situation is paramount. Life isn’t fair even (especially) to those who believe in Him. But our time and circumstances here are only temporary. Our praise to Him is eternal.


11 posted on 10/28/2021 10:23:37 AM PDT by Nathan _in_Arkansas (Hoist the black flag and begin slitting throats. )
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To: hsmomx3

Our Trisomy 21 baby died at 26 weeks. We gave him his name too: Dexter.

I think it depends on where you are. Here in SC, nobody pressured abortion at all. Maybe it’s different with some of the other Trisomy conditions.


12 posted on 10/28/2021 10:23:46 AM PDT by perfect_rovian_storm
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To: hsmomx3

So sorry for your loss. It’s heartening to hear that the staff was supportive and you had time with your precious baby boy.


13 posted on 10/28/2021 10:26:52 AM PDT by Tired of Taxes
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To: Tired of Taxes

Thank you.


14 posted on 10/28/2021 10:29:47 AM PDT by hsmomx3
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To: perfect_rovian_storm

So sorry for your loss.


15 posted on 10/28/2021 10:30:20 AM PDT by hsmomx3
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To: mmichaels1970

Sorry for the loss of your niece, but glad to hear her parents were given time to hold their baby girl.


16 posted on 10/28/2021 10:31:13 AM PDT by Tired of Taxes
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To: Tired of Taxes

May God continue to bless her and her family. They are certainly having a positive impact on the world.


17 posted on 10/28/2021 10:32:49 AM PDT by TheDon (Resist the usurpers)
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To: posterchild

Thank you for telling your story so that others can read it.

Some doctors and nurses try pushing risky tests, especially after a certain age, and even those tests can be wrong sometimes.


18 posted on 10/28/2021 10:46:18 AM PDT by Tired of Taxes
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To: hsmomx3

THank you. Yours also.

The following year, my wife gave birth to a perfect, beautiful baby boy. I didn’t believe it was going to be real until I held him for the first time. He’ll be 5 on Monday. He includes Dexter in his prayers every night.


19 posted on 10/28/2021 10:47:27 AM PDT by perfect_rovian_storm
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To: perfect_rovian_storm

God bless your family. So sorry for the loss of your baby boy.


20 posted on 10/28/2021 10:51:04 AM PDT by Tired of Taxes
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