I have no desire to be a man. I enjoy being a woman with the right man. I also realize there are differences on the average between the sexes, but there are similarities at the extremes of the bell curve. There are women who are more masculine than some men, and there are men who are more feminine than some women. Also, since women have 2% more genetic material than men they are more strongly survivable than men on the average. For example, women are more verbal from years of sitting around the cave talking to women and children, while men were off tracking and hunting and mostly keeping quiet. Women also were the gatherers, and have better memories for finding things, since they had to remember where and when each food crop was likely to be growing. That is why in most pairings I have observed, the women is often better at finding lost articles than the man. I have a son in Special Forces, and I suspect he would prefer to have a 5’10’ 165 lb. athletic woman in his squad than a 5’6” 140 lb. non athletic man there. The TRUTH is that people of both sexes are very variable, and some are more suited to one activity than others, and it is not necessarily sex related. Also some women are more aggressive and courageous than a lot of men. That is why when breeding bulls for bull fighting, they always look to the females characteristics in that area. My son was in the Ranger group in his large high school’s ROTC program. All the young men in his group had very strong mothers.
What a strawman argument about your son. Ask him if he wants either of them in his squad. That 140 lb man is weeded out and so is the woman.
Please explain why single mother homes are ten times more likely to have boys going to prison. Your personal experience is the exception and has no bearing on my argument.