This became a tear jerker of a thread!!
I am sorry for your losses.
I wonder how many women will have mentioned their miscarriage by the end of the thread.
I thought it was so rare!!
My mom had one right before me.
I guess I wouldn’t be here if she had the one prior.
But she was very sad, I’ve been told.
My friend’s wife had to CARRY the baby for a few weeks DEAD inside her!!!!
I forget the reason.
Good grief.
Prayers out to all who have lost a child.
Thank you. My daughter recently had a miscarriage. I probably didn’t handle it as well as I could have. She is doing better now. Two reactions to note: her mother-in-law told her that she will be very likely to miscarry again (which doesn’t seem to be statistically accurate, and her doctor assured her was not particularly likely); and, a very liberal relative sent me cute baby pictures of my niece’s newborn, a couple days after I shared the miscarriage info. I expect she was trying to piss me off.
I have two precious children I haven’t met yet. Another reason my homecoming to heaven will be joyous- I will finally meet the rest of my family
My mom told me I was not an only child by choice but did not go into details and I never asked. She died in 1996 so I will never know.
“... I thought it was so rare....”
Maybe that is why so many women keep it quiet... they think that it is rare. Also think that many people don’t see a miscarriage equal in terms of say a SIDS death so they don’t receive the same sort of emotional support. For example, I worked with a woman that miscarried around the third month and when she came back to work, another co-worker said, “You can have another one and this one was probably retarded or deformed.. it’s nature’s way of getting rid of mistakes”. Yeah, dp, SHE actually said that out loud. Yes... sometimes miscarriages are a result of genetic issues BUT YOU DON’T SAY IT! Some women feel that people judge them as “less a woman” or that they must have done something wrong (sinful, drank a beer, had rough sex etc). I am glad that people are at least talking about it and not telling someone to get over it etc..
When the baby dies before the miscarriage starts the medical term for this is “Missed Abortion.” It is better for the woman’s body to allow the hormone levels to drop and the body try to expel the dead child.
It happened to me twice and do I HATE that term. It makes it sound like the mother chose to lose her baby!!