Then i hate to tell you but your life math is off.
2 parents working + kids = bad news. It is unfair to all involved, no matter how “good” the parents are. One can rarely manufacture time.
And if you do the hard math you will see that 2 incomes does not produce twice the outcome.
There is no doubt that 2 incomes doesn’t produce twice the outcome, but even 1.5 times the income would let you live in a better area than 1 income.
The problem is quite simple; more and more people feel that if they want a standard of living comparable to what our parents had, then having children is off the table. The result is the demographic disaster we’re experiencing today, where we are trafficking foreigners here to replace those American children who will never be born. The “American” culture, however you define it, will be gone within a couple of generations.