“He has dementia, so she is tasked with making his medical decisions.”
I’ve been doing this for my dementia/cancer patient Dad for a full decade, now.
I know the Enemy Media wants to tug at some heartstrings here, but it really IS an easy choice.
When Dad was ‘lucid’ did you HAVE the important talk concerning his future care and wishes? Did he just RANDOMLY appoint you to make his medical decisions, or does he trust your judgement?
If he has Do Not Resuscitate in his medical records, or wears a bracelet, then DON’T give him the drug.
If his last cogent wish was to be kept alive at all costs, then GIVE give him the drug!
If nothing else, our younger generation had BETTER learn from this whole BS situation and get right with a parent you’ll be in charge of in the future.
And get your Wills in order, too. Quit making it hard on those you leave behind!
“And get your Wills in order, too. Quit making it hard on those you leave behind!”
To which I’ll add: Do NOT store wills or any important papers, like dnr, power of attorneys, etc. in a safety deposit box!
It is easier to make these decisions on a person you read about. But when it comes to your own mother or father or other person you can for, it is so hard. That is why those papers you describe are so important.
Sister and I have contract with each: we want the cocktail. And the other one - get rx for prophylactic purposes.
Did I make that clear. getting like ole Biden
I agree, with the dementia, I would have passed on the treatment. Maybe a morphine drip to keep comfortable.
This is a good time for families to discuss and update their wills. Compile the info your descendants will need to close your affairs. Do you want them to know about that hidden key to a safe deposit box or your life insurance policy?