[N. Theknow]

it is not just the wedding itself that is this big event (because it is a given that the father is supposed to pay for everything for that affair),

I have givn two daughters in marriage.

During both I was given the "3-S" instructions for my involvement in the proceedings:

Smile...Shutup...Shell out.

[lastchance]

Reminds me of the old advice for the mother of the groom, “Wear beige and keep your mouth shut.”