Yes, yes, yes, I’ve read all of the conspiracy theories, ET al, etc. But as an adoptee of the baby scoop era in a closed records state, this was my best bet to find my biological family. I found my bio mother through traditional search methods, bio father was proving tricky.
Long story short, I verified that I had indeed found my bio mother, and I found my bio father. All have accepted me totally.
Then I thought, maybe I can find my husband’s missing grandfather, or at least his descendants. Yep, eventually, they did show up, found out my MIL had half siblings in the same city she lived in back in the 50’s.
Then another close match showed up. Turned out she is an adoptee too. Because of an anomaly (2 brothers marrying 2 sisters,) I was able to pinpoint exactly who her grandparents were, and who her father was. She was able to meet him a year before he died.
Non adopted people have no idea how important this is for us.
I’m totally willing to trade whatever shenanigans may occur, just to find my biological family
I have a few of those. The most interesting was my Paternal grandparents. My Grandfather had two brothers who married two of the sisters of my Grandmother.
That skewed upwards the cM matches for those lines as they matched from both parents lines.
Since I already knew about the 3 siblings marrying 3 siblings it actually only confirmed their expected progeny's relationship levels.
I am not sure that you can call 2 brothers marrying 2 sisters an anomaly, although I thought the same thing first time I ran into it. I am trying to untangle our family tree for a 3rd cousin who doesn’t know the identity of his birth father and I keep running into “sibling of one marrying sibling of the other” and lord does it skew the DNA. I knew he belonged on the maternal side of my Mother’s family, but got thrown when I realized that he was also pulling from a cousin’s paternal side and that brothers had married into two generations of my maternal side. These people were prolific too, so I am wading through couples having twelve children and the children turning around having twelve children also.
DNA has been an absolute game changer for adopted children and those who don’t know their birth fathers. I did find my cousin’s daughter that no one knew about and they are now happily forging a relationship. The daughter was looking and I was nosy enough to inquire when she came up as a match. Didn’t even cross my mind that she was my cousin’s child.