A successful marriage means living with your spouse with an open heart, and unconditional love. If one has never experienced unconditional love , society today makes us way to occupied to experience it generally,then one has to cultivate a situation where it can be experienced We are talking about the kind of love a mother has for her child.
The whole marriage relationship , when based on unconditional love, provides an inexhaustible source of energy to face whatever life hands the couple. It also provides a huge source of energy and primordial kindness/communication in relation to sexuality and procreation.
Having children is a huge boost to a marriage, but in today’s social environment, it takes courage and the support of extended family.
The “successful woman” usually has toughness barriers she has cultivated so she could kick ass and get her financial success , or her successful career in hand. But the very qualities which support her success can make her a natural candidate for a disastrous marriage. It is important that the “successful “ woman realizes this dynamic and begin a path to really experience and cultivate unconditional love.
It is the same for men also, who have been taught to maintain a toughness barrier from their infancy.
There are many ways to cultivate unconditional love. One of the best is through the regular practice of Shamatha Meditation ( Resting the Mind/Heart in Peace) and Mahayana Buddhist meditation, what is called sending and taking or Tong Lin, exchanging self for other.
You can see that here and read the notes under the video applet :
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4RZy-uITowY
The Buddhists are right about our desires and attachments