[lodi90]

There are many, many women in their 30s-40s in my suburban neighborhood on their 2nd husbands. They are certainly not trophy wives and don’t seem to have a problem finding men for themselves and their kids. This “women can’t find men” is all an urban myth. Sorry.

[KC_Conspirator]

It is an urban myth. Its just women cant mitigate their desire for alpha seed/beta need. So ergo, they "don't settle" and end up alone, with cats, and bitterness after years of riding the c0** carousel.

The author seems young and her advice at the end of the column is BAD advice for women. In fact her advice/conclusions are NO different from liberal feminism that one might find from mags like Cosmo or J!zzebel.

[grey_whiskers]

Can’t find men == woman code for “can’t attract the man/level of man I really want (”deserve”)”

[PapaBear3625]

There are many, many women in their 30s-40s in my suburban neighborhood on their 2nd husbands. They are certainly not trophy wives and don’t seem to have a problem finding men for themselves and their kids.

These are women who married younger, and probably have a realistic view of their "marriage market value". This thread is about a woman who got to 38 without finding any man who suited her, and who would put up with her. Two ENTIRELY different situations.

[Cecily]

Those women have probably made marriage a priority (and I mean marriage, not endless dating and living together situations), which is what many of us here are saying women must do.