The guy filling in for Levin had a perfect example. Spouse calls while you’re out with friends, nags and complains, and feeling frustrated you hang up and say “That’s it, I’m done! We’re getting a divorce!”
Later, after you calm down, you say “Hey, you know I was just blowing off steam, right? I wasn’t serious about a divorce, but just do me a favor and don’t mention I sad that to (spouse), it will just upset (him/her)”.
Show me one person on the planet who hasn’t said something just like this.
Bingo...steam vent.
Thanks