No matter how much people pretend there’s a “gay gene” there just isn’t one. Renaming the idea to “born that way” doesn’t make a gay gene appear, either.
They went from “gay gene” and “born that way” to “gender is fluid” in about a year, just like they went from “global warming” to “climate change” and from “democracy is good” to “populism is evil” and from “McCain is a grumpy old racist” to “McCain is an American hero.”
If we accept that there's a gene which makes men be attracted to men, women to women, then I can we must accept that there's a gene that makes you attracted to children, animals, etc, etc.
It's learned sexually addictive behavior. Just ask any Muslim.
I don’t understand why “born that way” even matters. Stupid people are mostly “born that way”, but society frowns on stupid behavior. I don’t think people are born with a proclivity to have sex with random strangers of the same sex in a public bathroom (very, very common practice among homos), but it’s sick even if they were born that way.
A little quibble: sexual orientation is most likely of prenatal origin. The brain/sex connection has a very small window of time in fetal development. There is evidence that the womb environment has an epigenetic (environmental) influence on said development.
I have personal experience with men who have survived horrific sex abuse st the hands of male authorities and none that I know of became gay. Even if they went on to be subjects of seduction by other males, their personal attraction was toward women. I know men thst were raped as children by a man that are happily married to women.