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Having been around the block more than a few times myself, I must remind folks that this back and forth between guys and gals is not always sexual assault or abuse. It used to be considered normal when I was younger.

It is the delicate game that men and women play with each other trying to see if they match up. The games men and women play to find a compatible partner.

I've made a few "passes" in my time but they were innocent dalliances that used to be looked on with some amusement. Touching your date's breast at the drive-in movie. Trying to sneak a kiss when you're unsure of yourself. Rubbing against each other during a slow dance on the dance floor.

I remember putting my hand on the knee of a lady next sitting next to me (we knew each other from work and I was attracted to her) under the table at a function one time. She didn't remove my hand but eventually I removed it when she didn't respond in kind. Later in private, she smiled and said to me, "Feeling a little frisky, huh?"

I was embarrassed and offered an apology for touching her knee. She followed with, "Well, keep trying. I may come around eventually."

We never got together because I moved out of state. But she was not angry, upset or accusing me of unwanted sexual advances. She knew that men and women did these things trying to test the waters, so to speak. It is the dance the two genders play.