As a public health researcher embedded in these communities, the answer is simple: Nowhere.
As an intake interviewer at a local non-profit food bank, I frequently interview women in this situation. If they are ready to leave the abuse shelter, we help them with furniture, house hold goods, etc. They hold a special place in our hearts.
So why not make the abuser leave?
If those sanctuary cities for illegals would put Americans first, especially with education and job training, this would be solved.