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I have stated my issues with adoption on threads, but not for the reasons stated. Yes, there will always be women who do not wish to raise the children they bear. But for the most part (I’m speaking of newborn adoption, not in cases of legitimate abuse or neglect), pregnant women in a crises pregnancy are pressured into relinquishing their children, instead of being offered the assistance they need to help keep their child. They are not told of the life long regret and loss they may feel, the life long effects their child may experience.
I’m happy for this young man. I’m happy he had a good adoptive family. Many adoptees echo these sentiments. many adoptees, however, experience a life of not fitting in anywhere, of adoptive parents unable to bond with them, and trouble with establishing relationship bonds. Many times, when they reconnect with their family of origin, they find they don’t fit in there either. Often they experience a profound sense of loss upon if they do fit in, a life they missed out on. Yes, adoption is much better than abortion, in that life is better than death. But at what cost to each person, the mother and the child.
My other issue is the insane amount of money that is involved. 10’s of thousands of dollars for private adoptions. Paying birth mother expenses, which opens up the risk of fraud.
I hope you don’t miss construe my meaning. It is a topic that invokes strong emotions either way. When someone comes along and challenges the narrative, they get attacked. I’m not attacking anyone who disagrees with me, I just want to give a little insight.

I don't at all blame you or reject you for saying what you said. Yes, there are sometimes heartaches with adoption. Heartaches on the part of the birthmother, on the part of the adopted child, on the part of the adoptive parents. But did anyone say it would always be easy?

Having your own bio children is risky and can inflict unexpected suffering.

Loving anyone, anytime, is fraught with risk. Yet, you never know. The slogan on the wall of our local Pregnancy Care Center: “Women who experience unplanned pregnancy also deserve unplanned joy.”

Which brings me to what you said about Pregnancy Center staff pressuring girls to make an abortion plan for their child. I have never seen that.

Glancing at the report that our Pregnancy Center sent with the 2017 Christmas cards: 129 clients gave birth; 2 adoptions. And I think that's about par wherever you go: there are way more women choosing to keep their babies, rather than place for adoption.

So you may have run into a center which pushes for adoption, but I don't think that's typical. Their overall goal is simple: healthy mother, healthy child.

And only a child who's BORN can show you what could be or do.

Sad sign seen at the January March for Life: "She could have been a dancer."