Posted on 01/17/2018 5:41:55 AM PST by Kaslin
There's a word that has become popular in feminist circles these days: "mansplaining." The word is a mashup of "man" and "explaining" and refers to men who condescendingly explain the facts of life to women. So, for example, if a man believes a woman doesn't understand directions and slowly repeats those directions to a woman, he's mansplaining and, therefore, guilty of cruelty and stupidity.
Well, feminists, it's time to stop "feministsplaining" sex to men.
The #MeToo movement has been good for America. It's good that women who have been sexually assaulted and abused are coming forward; it's good that we're finally having conversations about the nature of consent and the problems with a casual hookup culture that obfuscates sexual responsibility. But the #MeToo movement hasn't stopped there. Men are now being pilloried for the sin of taking women too literally -- of not reading women's minds.
Take, for example, "Grace," an anonymous woman who went on a rotten date with comedian Aziz Ansari. According to Grace, Ansari treated her abominably: He took her to dinner, gave her white wine instead of red, pushed her to come to his apartment and then engaged in a vigorous round of sexual activities to which she apparently consented. She eventually said no -- and when she did, he stopped. Later, she suggested that Ansari hadn't obeyed her "non-verbal cues" -- nonverbal cues that reportedly included undressing and then voluntarily servicing Ansari.
In the aftermath, Grace felt used. So she texted Ansari, explaining to him that she felt terrible about the date. "I want to make sure you're aware so maybe the next girl doesn't have to cry on the ride home," she said.
This is feministsplaining sex. Here's the problem: The condescension isn't earned. From Grace's story, it seems she was less than clear in her nonverbal communications but she wanted Ansari to read her mind -- and that when he didn't, she therefore had leeway to lecture him about his sins and, more broadly, those of all men.
It's not just Grace. Rachel Thompson of Mashable explained: "The responses to the woman's story are peppered with the word 'should.' She should have said no ... For many women, uttering an explicit 'no' is not as easy or straightforward as you might think." Well, as it turns out, reading minds is not quite as easy or straightforward as feminists might think. It was feminists who boiled down sexual relations to the issue of consent. Traditionalists always argued that physical intimacy and emotional intimacy ought to be linked. But they were accused of removing female agency with such linkage and condemned for "mansplaining."
How about this: no feministsplaining and no mansplaining when it comes to sex? How about we instead focus on communication between men and women? How about sexual partners demand more from one another than physical release so they aren't disappointed that they're being treated as sex objects? A system prizing love and commitment doesn't require nearly the amount of explanation as a system that dispenses with both.
Too many women can't tell the difference between an "alpha male" and an "alpha hotel".
This upset girls, because so many exciting cads were excluded,
Hence the need for Fathers to exclude the "exiting cads" (a polite way of saying "assholes").
At the root of it, feminists don't explain anything, they just bitch and moan.
Great post. When snowflakes feel uncomfortable they aren’t trained to examine their actions they look for someone else to blame.
Sexual activity without intimacy is hollowing out our culture, destroying the concept of the family and stripping children of it’s stability and many benefits.
We can see the results of this destructive liberal philosophy throughout America and even more where it began, in Northern Europe. Starting as a rebellion against restraints and for “sexual freedom” it and ended with chaos and alienation. Children growing up unable to trust & form relationships, focused on the self, unable to commit in a more general sense without the character traits that enable success. Hopefully the pendulum will be swinging soon.
I don't think that day can come too soon.
A corollary to all that drives both the push for “choice” and “AIDS research”.
There are lots of people out there who want to engage in wanton sexual promiscuity without any concern about adverse consequences.
Women went from being women to becoming victims to becoming radically empowered to becoming victims of their own empowerment.
Turns out it is the same creeps (Harvey Weinstein types) that victimized women are the same creeps today that women should be wary of. This was all self perpetuating by the left and as usual they blamed conservatives for their failings at social engineering.
But, before that, there will be a Cleansing, Old Testament in scope and nature.
This is very difficult for young women and teens to actually understand. They don’t know how they are supposed to behave and they are surrounded by pop and media culture. Females since infancy are blessed with a social intuition in their brains that gleans complicated relationships between people. But what girls pick up now from this sense is to be sexy and appealing to men. In a vacuum. And their mothers are often not helping them. Their fathers are scared to step up.
These poor girls are alone and don’t know what they want, while they are raised to want to be princesses and stars, and they want a man, or men, to think they are special. They don’t understand that most men don’t think sex has to happen only with someone they think is special. It’s a recipe for all girls to feel abused because they care about their sex partners and men don’t necessarily.
” gave her white wine instead of red”
OMG. This man should be put in stocks and flailed with a cat ‘o nine tails.
Well put.
I don’t know the ‘scheduled’ sequence or timing. Your assertion is plausible. What do you base it on? Did I miss something in Cliff’s long video or are you basing it on The Biblical script or what?
Be careful. You’ll trigger a new mass movement trying to ban cause and effect as being too terminally UN-PC! Hidiots.
Get married. Stay faithful. Honor each other. Avoid all of this PC drama.
That is to say, "Just don't fornicate."
I’m basing it on the idea that the reassertion of masculinity won’t happen until it’s obvious to all that it’s needed.
It won’t be obvious it’s needed until after the Cleansing.
There were hints of it after 9/11, but the Forces of Darkness and Evil were able to push it back into its bottle.
Well said.
You are exactly right.
That is illustrated by “Grace” even though she doesn’t realize it. She tried to behave in a manner that she assumed men do about sex. She didn’t get the emotional satisfaction that her woman centered personality, obviously unbeknownst to her, expected.
She blamed her lack of understanding of her nature on him, for not understanding her nature.
Her “tears on the way home” are of self disgust over the lack of emotional bonding that she is denying herself with her unwomanly behavior.
Hell, you can fornicate if you want.
Simple be prepared to deal with the consequences.
Femsplaining it’s shorter.
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