1) The early "right to vote, work, have property, be educated" wave of the late 1800s, early 1900s.
2.) The 60s wave that was mostly about divorce and birth control. The no-fault divorce hit traditional women hard, you should remember. Women who were perfectly happy being wives and mothers suddenly got dumped in favor of trophy wives, and being that they had never worked, they landed in relative poverty. So this wave was very much about "not depending on men financially, because they could ditch you at any time." It was a reaction to something men did first. No one likes to hear this, but I think it is true. The no-fault divorce was a boon to men more than to women.
3.) This new wave of psycho-butch man-hating communists who do not represent anything but their own insanity. I have nothing to do with these nutcases.
You sound like good people!
I would disagree a bit on the second phase; women typically initiate divorce. But I think you have the phases right. Something else to consider is that men have and will likely continue to come out the winner in all this. Feminism is a curse for women.