I was never a big kid, and I got bullied, but I quickly found out that you fight back. I still wasn’t big, but was strong and really quick, by the time I was in HS, I had a reputation as one to not mess with.
My discovery was that if someone started something, get the first punch in...and the second, third, fourth, fifth, sixth, then a couple more while they were on their back. Bullying isn’t something new, quit being pussies.
That is definitely a guy’s perspective, because in my day, girls weren’t encouraged to act like guys, however, I don’t think that is the case today.
As an observer, I see pressure for young girls to drink like guys, engage in sex like guys, and engage in physical assault like guys.
I find it disgusting, destructive, and reprehensible, but there it is. So you see far more incidents of women engaging in the same king of personal assaults that boys used to, and...for what?
But as a guy, you need to show you can deal with it. Doesn’t have to be fisticuffs or even any physical confrontation at all, but if you show yourself to be a doormat, there are guys who will treat you as a doormat.
As I said, there are life lessons and benefits to dealing directly with that kind of uncomfortable situation. And it is uncomfortable. For a young kid, having to confront fear is not an easy thing...it might well be one of the hardest things for a kid to do, but wrapping kids in bubble wrap doesn’t do them any favors.