For most of the people that I deal with, life has been brutal. No breaks, just sh8t. Why are we sentenced to this? Did any of us ask to be born? School is brutal. It sucks to be bullied, but there really is no help for it. I told my kids you have to bully a bully but one of them was bullied and one of them was a bully who now is bullied. My ex was a bully.
What is the effing point?
I sympathize with kids who are bullied, I got bullied as a kid for years on end. I was bigger than a lot of kids, but clumsy and withdrawn, and wore the black plastic glasses that seem to be bully magnets for some odd reason. I used to have a kid wait for me at a certain point every single day for several years as I walked to school.
But, in my opinion, it is far, Far, FAR more important to teach kids how to withstand bullying than it is to eliminate bullying.
Because just like there will always be criminals, deviants, thievery, and violence, there will always be bullies. Always.
It isn’t easy. It isn’t fun. It is painful, and sad.
But, it is a microcosm of life itself, which sometimes isn’t easy or fun, and often painful and sad.
It is a liberal construct to try and put people in a bubble to protect them. And it is damaging, destructive, and even dangerous to do so.
Then point has always bee Survival Of The Fittest. The weak are culled from the pack, the herd, the community of nations. Not saying I like it but it’s reality.
It’s nature’s way. Much of nature’s way has been shielded from human beings for the last 75 years or so. That shield will eventually drop. It always does.
I grew up in the early 70’s and was blessed with crossed eyes. My entire day from the moment my Mom walked me to the bus stop to the time I got home was being made fun of and harassed. It finally ended in high school when a the eye surgeon was able to straighten them out. I also grew and was one of the biggest kids in class. There were times that I wanted to seek revenge on the kids who taunted me , but I let it go. My revenge was to out perform them, go to college and marry a great looking woman, all of which I did. Its a horrible way to grow up but looking back I think it gave me a tremendous work ethic, empathy for people and drive.
A Boy Named Sue