Posted on 11/25/2017 1:19:47 PM PST by Oshkalaboomboom
It’s ironic or tragic or outrageous that in a nation where parents are allowed to keep their children on the family health insurance policy until they’re 26-years-old, many foster children are told to hit the streets when they turn 18. Why is that you ask? Foster parents receive a monthly stipend for foster children in their care. The check is based on the age of the child, extenuating circumstances, and if the child has any disabilities. Amounts can vary depending of the state administering the program.
One thing all the checks have in common is that when the child turns 18 the money from the state stops. Call me naïve, but I would have thought that if a family truly cared about the individual it was fostering the absence of a check would not make any difference.
It shows you how much I know. For some revenue-minded foster "parents" when opening the door no longer provides a check, the foster child is shown the door.
In South Carolina the non-profit Carolina Youth Development Center is working to change this unpleasant reality for at least a few that have aged out of foster care.
CYDC is partnering with Cummins International — the manufacturer of the diesel engines that power the big rigs — to produce independent living transitional housing for those former foster kids. CYDC CEO Beverly Hardin told the Moultrie News, “Children don’t just become independent when they turn 18. They still need guidance and a safe and stable environment in order for them to grow into responsible adults capable of caring for themselves.”
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No doubt it has. I love your attitude.
When we adopted, our only goal was to raise a healthy, happy, well adjusted, resilient person.
So far, she is succeeding beyond our wildest expectations!
The certification is an ongoing task. You have to attend classes listening to Liberal B.S. for hours on end and "Village" propaganda. You have to open your home to the state. You have to pass a FBI check. You have to give them a biography of your entire life and your beliefs. You'll likely get to know the cops because many times parents call in so as to try and get the kids moved. The Foster Care Program puts the welfare of the kids last and the kids mother first.
A couple decades ago if a child was taken out of the parents home into protective custody they often tried to locate stable family members to take them in and more often than not adopt them. Now their goal is reunification for any offenses short of killing a child. The state, the parents, and the courts in cases of kinship FP's will dangle the kids over them. The kids need stability and most of all love. This system as it stands doesn't allow it.
We are a lot older now and I don't know if we would do it again, if certain situations arose I think we probably would.
No. Thank YOU.
Keeping those kids out of “the system” is probably the ONLY thing that gives them a chance at a life not filled with sorrow.
The things I’ve learned about the literal brain physiology of children depending on how they are raised should TERRIFY “hobbyist” parents.
Yeah, it was, but someone had to do it. I just couldn’t let those girls go unloved.
Happy/lucky?
Very good. These days people’s bad behavior is sympathized and sometimes justified because of their negative experiences. You are a perfect example of why that is not an excuse.
Yep - and many have “issues” so I have no problem for someone to make a few bucks taking care of them - gives the kids a much better shot compared to being in communal shelters.
And don’t forget the federal funds attached to child support recovery. Child support interest, is another big payday for the state.
My suggestion is to stop demanding obeisance to family; if it is a positive one, affirm it, if not, let people make their own lives. In America, we have a sick allegiance to family that harms many in the long run. Molested daughters visiting their molesters in jail, letting their children visit their “grandfather” because, after all, he is their “grandfather”, covering up crimes of the parents because of biology, it makes me shudder.
nuns beat kids, pinch kids, priests hit kids with fists, molest them, so yes, religious orphanages should be good places, but aren’t
You took in three children who were not state funded or wards. On your own dime. that is the grace of charity. My comment was about state kids who need homes and would have been in orphanages and training schools in the past and now are parceled out to professionally trained people who raise them in their homes, as an option to having the children in the streets.
That stipend might have been the thing that allowed them to keep you.
Drug addiction... sex trafficking... plenty of horrible things can and do happen to kids from loving homes.
Unfortunately, the children's services people are spread thin. Hope it will change, that is why we are foster parents...
How deliciously ironic.
You refer to a “sick allegence” to “family” as if the demand for “obeisance to family” causes otherwise wholesome people to return victimized children to a pit of despair!
Talk about “straw man!”
What’s “sick” is your antipathy, and failure to recognize an inherently meritorious societal icon, because it is practiced by both the righteous and the wicked.
The failure here is with your understanding of “cart” and “horse.”
And the people who do such things that aren’t members of an easily categorized community are somehow superior?
are they?
the take away is: not all families should be reunified.
I had a friend who fostered. She had one girl who’s grandparents adopted her younger sibling who was a cute toddler but nobody in the family wanted the 12 year old. That poor kid was a liar,aggressive, angry and sexually provocative. My friend had her for years but refused to adopt her because that would have stopped the money from coming in and created a financial burden. My friend would have been on the hook for the girl’s
pyschatric visits and her vocational training. Eventually they sent her to a group home because she kept coming on to the husband and the neighbor men. She also tried to get my friend’s child to pick up a rattle snake.
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