When you are hung up on hugging and cuddling to the point you are counting them that is not healthy.
Shrinks often ask folks to count such things to help insure they treat it more seriously and do it an adequate number of times to have some impact toward change.
Housemate has never ran into many people who own an aversion to hugging or cuddling--particularly in 1:1 conversations. Actually, he has a hard time thinking of one. Until you.