Posted on 10/24/2017 5:02:12 AM PDT by Kaslin
While trying not to indulge in schadenfreude over those hypocritical Hollywood elites who've claimed to stand for "women's rights," only to be accused of sexually harassing them, I noticed "(hashtag)MeToo" trending on Twitter. At (hashtag)MeToo, women who have been sexually harassed are invited to post their experiences, and many have done so, including four female U.S. senators.
I asked my adult daughter and oldest granddaughter if they had ever encountered sexual harassment. My daughter said at a previous job her boss "invited" her to sit on his lap. She refused and no longer works there.
Even more shocking was the response I received from my granddaughter, who is a nurse at a hospital in San Antonio, Texas. I reprint her account (with her permission) because it contains a lesson, not only for men but for the male-dominated culture.
I will not use her last name to protect her from more bad experiences. Crystal writes:
"It's a tough subject to speak on. Personally, I have been sexually harassed many times in my workplace and generally speaking. All the jobs I have ever had, there has been sexual harassment. I am a nurse and have had doctors make inappropriate comments. I've felt very uncomfortable and have tried to ignore or 'laugh off' the remarks for fear of retaliation. These are doctors I have needed orders from for my patients. The last thing I need is for them to be mad at me. So, when I see the ones who have made inappropriate remarks, I smile and say hello. I'm sure if I ever went to report (them) it would somehow be turned on me like I did something wrong. So I just 'laugh it off' and move on, because, just like Harvey (Weinstein), doctors are the ones bringing in the big bucks and are granted immunity for certain things ... i.e., sexual harassment.
"Generally speaking when instances occur outside of work I have stood up for myself, and am then treated as if I am wrong for doing so."
Commenting on pictures of Hollywood actresses hugging Weinstein, Crystal continues: "I understand why these women are all smiles with this man. He is powerful in their community. He has power over their career. And I'm sure he is the reason they are famous. Like me, and so many others, these women were afraid to speak up and to stand up to this man fearing their livelihood would be negatively affected.
"Females deal with this BS constantly ... it's never comfortable, especially when you have to continue seeing or working with the person/people. It's always an awkward situation to be in, especially when the person has a higher position of power.
"As a mother ... I think it's important to teach our children to stick up for themselves always, and it's never OK for someone to harass them in any way. It's equally important for boys and girls to learn this. It's important to teach right and wrong and promote what is right ALWAYS."
Powerful stuff, but in an age when the lines between right and wrong, good and bad are blurred, if not eliminated, and with culture and opinion polls defining moral standards which are constantly in flux, sexual harassment is only one of many consequences when "societal norms" are obliterated.
Perhaps the best way to address this is to put more women in charge -- the right kind of women, like Crystal.
Or better yet, welcome back positive values.
Men chasing women is the rhythm of life. Apparently women like to be caught too otherwise their would be no babies.
That being said, men should pursue in a genteel fashion.
The mantra of the day is “men are evil”
I have absolutely no use for Hashtags and refuse to use them.
Get out of the workplace if you can’t stand anything but kitchen talk!
I am excarmy.. So what if the guys said things.. Their words didn’t frighten or intimidate me.. they might have made me a lil uncomfortable when it was graphic, but I heard women saying the same things. I would leave the area and hang out with gentlemen instead.
Women talk about other women in disgusting ways, but I don’t hang around that either.
So I have been leered at? I guarantee it wasn’t like he was planning my rape or anything.
Equating wolf whistles and unwanted mild sexual harassment with Democrat elites in Hollywood raping women while the press ignores it and hypocrite celebrities ignore it is essentially a cover-up in and of itself.
If you expand the definition to the point everyone’s experienced it, you now have an excuse for the sexual predators that everyone does it.
This also leads to unfair policies liberals want like the EU attacking all men as guilty of rape culture so lets penalize wolf whistles in the name of protecting women who are overwhelmingly raped by Muslim men. WITHOUT having to blame the Muslim men.
Here’s one for Cal: #PutCrystalInCharge
That was the way of western civilization until the "Spring Break Girls" decided to act like sluts. Funny how those college girls have no problem with groping guys and acting as stupidly as the boys.
I worked for a government office and on Fridays we could wear jeans. Young women found one of the guys particularly attractive in his jeans and we would tell him to walk by again. I think he was somewhat embarrassed and we all laughed. It works both ways.
women choose to give up their power too easily. I understand Crystal’s position, but in selling your soul to keep your income/career, you really have nothing of worth in the end.
I had to make that choice 18 years ago. It wasn’t easy, but it’s worth being labeled difficult to work with or having to find another way to use your training and skills that will support yourself or family than to sell your soul repeatedly to the same disgusting man/men. Not to mention the damage it does to our own health when we repeatedly internalize the stress of harassment.
If the doctor(s) doing it to one nurse he’s likely doing it to others. if each spoke up, the hospital would have to do something about the doctor. Not to mention if the doctor is married, by enabling him to get away with this at the workplace he is likely destroying his marriage and family life. If the hospital had enough complaints and had to deal with the doctor, maybe that would smack him into dealing with this personal life issues (married or not) that make him act inapropriatley at work?
It’s a much bigger picture of chain reaction that is effected but enabled by Crystal’s of the world.
She has more power than she thinks or is willing to use.
In my case 18 yrs ago, the man was no longer considered for a promotion the company was planning for him. He also had is personal life altered. I left the job it created a roller coaster in my life as I had many questions for myself at first and felt guilty of much that was not my fault, etc, and who knows what else happened to all of them, but I’m glad I spoke up.
many years later I accepted Jesus and know He was the One who gave me the courage to speak up and do the right thing and He carried me through the changes afterward. What an awesome God to do all that for me, before I even accepted Him!
Hope Crystal and millions of other women stop giving away the enormous power AND RESPONSIBILITY God gave women. We are the “check” in this balance and it matters for our young girls and boys growing up. If men don’t want to accept their responsibility of teaching boys properly to not be predators that’s on them. Yes it takes men to raise a boy properly to manhood, just as it takes a women to raise girls properly to womanhood. God made it that way (in the bible) “train up a child....”
At a medical facility I worked at, the CEO had more than 10 cases of sexual harassment leveled against him.
The women were dismissed through firing on other matters, very quickly. He is still in his corner office. The partners paid some hush money.
The hashtag will undoubtedly expose genuine cases of sexual harassment and worse. Unfortunately this also provides the “everybody does it” protective covering the creeps in and out of the public eye need to slither away.
I worked for a government office and on Fridays we could wear jeans. Young women found one of the guys particularly attractive in his jeans and we would tell him to walk by again. I think he was somewhat embarrassed and we all laughed. It works both ways.
Saw a similar situation with a plant manager.
Also saw a young women use him as a ladder for promotion.
She knew what to do to get a manager job
At (hashtag)MeToo, women who have been sexually harassed are invited to post their experiences, and many have done so, including four female U.S. senators.
Huh, and I thought they were jealous for being left out when they posted under Pound Me Too.
The oldest adult son in the neighbors family began saying provocative things to me, my son walks up to him and asks, "are you trying to hit on my Mother?" "What the hell?" The guy walked off.
I saw it posted somewhere else (maybe it was FR) regarding the typical Liberal approach to this problem. It was interesting angle. I’ll try to re-create it.
Having women simply post “me too” does NOTHING for the problem. It allows people to feel better about their being part of a group of victims. If the goal is to make women feel more normal about being sexually harassed or assaulted, then the “me too” campaign will help them realize that they are not alone and that this happens to everybody in society. Is this really what the # campaign is supposed to do. There is no substance, point or direction to make changes.
A feel good liberal will say, “It brings awareness.” “It starts a discussion.” Like so many other liberal agendas and ideas, it focuses on highlighting a problem and creating a class of victims. And victims need a monster to focus their emotions on once they can share this grief with a group of fellow victims. In this case, the broad, “me too” without naming the predators identifies the “offending class” as the perpetrator, MEN.
This is certainly not a post to diminish the serious issues of sexual assault and harassment. But the subjective generalities ensure that there is no action to be taken or response or debate. I have heard that this campaign will make women feel safer about confronting or reporting perpetrators of sexual harassment or assault. If that works, then maybe some good can come of this # campaign. But be careful to note that, as in all liberal social and cultural campaigns, the point is not to solve the problem, else a class of victims would lose numbers and be less inclined to identify with the herd.
Keep in mind, there is also the professional victim class that longs to be a part of as many victim groups as they can identify themselves with. These are the people that seek out sympathy and attention. In a twisted fashion, they prefer a miserable identity for the compassion and generosity that is fed to them through social media and/or peers around them. There will be some less than honest people that will participate. And this is bad for real victims, as often happens, when a few bad apples over play the hand and taint the sincere participants intentions.
Finally, sexual assault is a defined crime and should be aggressively investigated and prosecuted at all times. Victims need to get to a level of comfort to report the crimes. This is helpful to potential future victims. Maybe this # campaign will help that. Sexual harassment, however, can be less obvious and more subjective. The fine line between a compliment about a female colleagues appearance and sexual harassment often depends on the perception and character of the recipient of said offense/compliment. And this is where our aggressive PC culture has eroded the credibility of accusers in some circumstances. It has also caused certain gentlemanly decencies of ages past to go by the wayside for fear of a confusing message. Men, DO NOT compliment colleagues on appearance or personality in the work place. Only comment on performance, for the sake of a potential misunderstanding of intent.
Good luck. Flame away if you must. ;o)
IMHO, Twitter is getting old and stale very fast.
Please do not forget, however, that if “hush money” was in fact, paid, that the women accepted the money.
JoMa
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