It’s not a loveless marriage.
It’s an abusive relationship. And voters finally got their **** together, walked out, filed a freaking restraining order, and are getting a danged divorce.
Thread winner.
Like many abusive relationships, it takes the abused partner a long time to admit the abuse. (But he brought me flowers! She cooked my favorite meal!) The desire for the little dribble of affection now and then clouds your vision and prevents you from seeing the chronic abuse.
They were only using you for your money. They never really loved you. And now they are using you for an emotional punching bag.