The point is to not be a devil and victim yourself.
Walk on
It’s not being a devil, and speaking honestly and openly about how a parental figure was a piece of crap actually FREES you from being a victim. One of the things abusive people (of any stripe) always do is push the people they abuse to maintain the outward appearance, make sure everything looks normal. One of the most important keys to breaking the cycle is spreading the word far and wide: things here aren’t normal. We have this weird thing in our society where abused people not only have to admit they are abused, they have to convince others, people try to talk them out of it, people try to tell them it’s OK, people tell them to forgive, people tell them they earned it.
What I see in this obit is shaking off the last vestiges of being a victim, this is them walking on. They announced how very not normal the situation was, how very abused they were, and how much better their lives will now be.