War is a nasty enough business for men. Why do women want to get into it? Brainwashed, I guess.
They don't.
They want to get into it, because they view the military as a jobs opportunity program, not a “Kill the enemy and destroy as much of his equipment and infrastructure as possible” program.
These are mostly (but not all) liberal idiots who don’t understand the military is not the civilian world, and the same rules and standards do not apply.
As you said, it is a nasty, nasty, cutthroat, brutal, human against human desecration of one or the other, and the one less desecrated/destroyed/killed/maimed is the one on average that is going to win a conflict.
These dumb asses think that you can have office rules about conduct, and people can push buttons and the enemy will evaporate.
They have no knowledge of history. They don’t understand the naval battles in the Solomons, Edson’s Ridge, Iwo Jima, Battle of The Bulge, Chosin, Khe Sanh, Hill 937, Fallujah, and countless others, and the role that physical strength played in those victories, winning out many times in small scale individual/unit actions, that translated in summary to an overall victory.
There are a lot of those kingdoms that could have been lost for the want of a nail for a shoe.