As someone who was raped at 16 I agree with Mr. Fry.
At some point you have to move on or else it dominates your life and you won’t have a life. I know too many people who wear ‘survivor’ status like it’s some sort of medal or something.
Something that happened to me does not define me and if it did I’d hope that someone would come along and tell me to grow up and move on.
I’m glad to hear that you have been able to get on with your life. I just think it’s necessary to help those who cannot, rather than denigrating them. And I agree there are some who want attention because of their trauma, but I think they are a minority of the abuse victims.