[xzins]

I think the behavior defines the attitude in these things, so I would guess the behavior has ALREADY occurred.

[Mrs. Don-o]

I know you are generally a sensible person, xzins (at least, in my opinion!) but I don't know why you would say that in people who experience SSA, "behavior" (do you mean sodomy?) has already occurred.

I think a pastor, teacher, or parent, for instance, would have have grounds to wonder whether a kid who "come out" as gay (SSA) at 12 were molested somewhere along the line... But I don't think it's necessarily the case.

I am no expert, but from what I read, a not-insignificant number of young people experience SSA in early adolescence, don't "do" anything that crosses a line, and their feelings eventually mature into natural man-woman desires by their 20's.