Posted on 10/15/2015 2:53:21 AM PDT by markomalley
A look at the new landscape of sex education published by The New York Times contains an eye-opening anecdote: In California, teachers are telling kids to get consent every ten minutes during sex to avoid committing rape.
The article is about the brave new world created by affirmative consent, or “yes means yes,” which holds that a person must obtain explicit prior consent for every sexual act or else be considered to have committed sexual assault.The standard isn’t limited to sex itself; a person would also need explicit affirmative consent to kiss somebody, too.
All of this is in contrast to the prevailing criminal standard, known as “no means no,” where sexual assault occurs when a person proceeds with sexual activity despite an explicit refusal of consent. While this remains the criminal standard, California made a major shift last year by requiring all school disciplinary bodies to use affirmative consent, and it also required state sex education classes to use the standard as well. (RELATED: Students Explain Affirmative Consent With Cringeworthy Video)
That shift means a change in how sex education is handled, and the Times suggests that kids are finding affirmative consent to be a somewhat difficult standard to grasp. Among other things, some kids are getting the impression they need to set a timer during their intimate encounters to make sure their casual hookup doesn’t accidentally become a rape.
“What does that mean — you have to say ‘yes’ every 10 minutes?” one tenth grader is quoted asking sex ed instructor Shafia Zaloom.
“Pretty much,” Zaloom replied, adding that “It’s not a timing thing, but whoever initiates things to another level has to ask.”
If Zaloom’s advice is confusing, it isn’t because she lacks experience teaching the standard. The Times says she “has written a curriculum for affirmative consent programs that is being used throughout the country.”
But despite Zaloom’s expertise kids are still finding that affirmative consent is hard to mesh with the way people actually have sex (or, given their age, how they imagine people having sex). When given a list of phrases that could be used to gain consent, such as “Can I touch you there?”, students were dismissive.
“They’re all really awkward and bizarre,” one girl said.
Show me a tenth grader who can last 10 minutes...
If it was yes for the first 9 minute and no at the 10th minute, was that rape?
This could only come from California.
Does this apply to both men and women.....or “ITS?”
Either way, if it were me I would tell my partner to “shut your yap and get back to business!”
Can’t we have our partner enthusiastically cheering us on every minute or so instead?
It’s usually over in 5 anyhow, especially if she’s super hot lmao
“Kids” and “Sex” in the headline. Nothing good will come of this.
“Yes! Yes! Yes! Yes! YES!!”
All done in a marxist effort to prostitute our children.
People don’t seem to realize that they’re supporting Marxism when they celebrate casual promiscuity.
Are they going to recommend dashboard cameras as well (sort of what the police have)?
There was a story about a guy who saved himself from a false rape charge, by having his PC webcam record the whole thing without her knowledge. I think the girl thereupon got arrested for filing a false police report.
Stop right there
I gotta know right now
Before we go any further
Do you love me?
Will you love me forever?
Do you need me?
Will you never leave me?
Will you make me so happy
For the rest of my life?
Will you take me away
And will you make me your wife?
All that would take until the end of time.
Oh my, making the late Bob Crane proud, lol.
Bfl
Talk about a mood killer.....does the female also have to ask the male for HIS consent too? California needs to sink into the pacific.
Does this apply only to hetero sex or homo sex as well? Inquiring minds want to know. Does this only apply to men or women as well, etc. What about the questioning group or bi groups, etc.
Please don’t Stop
So when are the schools going to teach the kids to not have sex until they are grown up enough to care and provide children? Or if they aren’t willing to wait, to use protection so that they don’t create millions of unwanted babies that are either killed in abortion clinics or living off the state in broken homes?
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