Any list of narcissistic personality disorder doesn’t really give a full understanding of what they’re really like. For one thing, there is never any peace. They triangulate, always having at least one person they get others to hate. Check out gaslighting. They’re masters at it.
They want to control your choices, they are critical of you. They only do or say nice things for or about you when others can see. They’re critical, they shame. They separate you from your friends and relatives. Of course, they lie all the time.
A friend is married to a narcissist and I’ve learned a lot about being around one from her. It’s taken her 35 years of marriage to figure out that she’s not defective, it’s him. Anyway, she had a heart attack. About a week after she got home she found out that her husband had been telling all their neighbors that HE had had a heart attack. Typical narcissist.
One of the biggest problems for people that have a parent or spouse with this disorder is that everyone else thinks the narcissist is wonderful and YOU are a piece of crap.
The only thing you can do with one of these people is run, run, run, as far away as possible.
Excellent post. Female narcissists abound as well.
I did ...
From her and her friends who as you predicted followed her (great!)
Her filing for divorce was from Frustration as she could not crack me, but reading your letter was like a time machine and I had to get off!
The psychological aspect to me was the worst, sneeringly dismissive and then boop another personality would manifest...
Peace...
Yup, my mother is a narcissist. Undiagnosed because of course, she is perfect.... but my sister and I have finally figured out what was so wrong with our childhood.