[jonno]

I agree. However, what I stated was:
...most parents can empathize with the frustration - even desperation - behind this statement.

I didn't suggest it should actually be said.

If you've never been in that kind of emotional state, you're one of the lucky ones...

[discostu]

I had my mother through that threat at me at least twice a year from age 6 to 15. I was in that emotional state plenty, because she DELIBERATELY put me in it. I don’t see anything to empathize with. It didn’t come from a place of frustration or desperation it came from a place of CONTROL, trying to make ME desperate to not get thrown out. You’ve got the wrong emotions tied to it.