"Friends and/or family". Remember writing that?
Suggesting that I would have my friends & family do it is a convenient straw man argument.
The logical reasoning to my comment is that it is ‘not legal’ for my family to carry out my wishes by having it performed, not ‘doing the deed’ themselves which is, of course, illegal.
‘Nice try’ would be a knee=jerk response to your comment, but it wasn’t ‘nice’, was it? (that was ‘rhetorical’; you might look that up, too)