According to my wife OB who is our social acquaintance Voluntary total hysterectomies are rare and most docs won’t do them
Jolie didn't have a total hysterectomy. She had an oophorectomy. And she had that done only after a doctor told her she might have an early form of cancer.
If your OB friend isn't aware that doctors encourage women with a certain genetic mutation to have prophylactic oophorectomies, then maybe that's because she's an OB and not a gynecological oncologist.
Btw, I had one nightmarish year of pure hell a few years ago, and that's the only reason that I know anything about any of this.
Thus says my 50 year old in menopause hunny bunny who takes HRT btw and is damned glad to have them
I'm 50, too. Since you're an up front, tell-it-like-you-see-it kind of guy, I'm going to be straightforward, too: Tell your lovely wife to stop the HRT. Certain cancers feed on estrogen. HRT can lead to cancer. <<< Click on that link for more info.
Now people are going to be angry with me, but I had to let you know.
Do you think I’m giving up my testicles preemptively
I can't believe I'm having this conversation. But... you wouldn't have to do that... because testicular cancer has been curable for the past 30 years.
And now I hope you and everyone else here will never have to know about any of these things. I hope you'll never have to sit before a doctor who says those three words - "You have..." well, you know.