I think it’s high time to stop fearing honest discussion.
I was coaching at an inner city high school, mostly black, not a single white face in the bunch, and one black kid was race-baiting me, constantly egging me on to try to get a reaction from me, trying to push my buttons. He was incredibly obnoxious, but I figured I was an adult and he was a kid, so I basically ignored him. Finally, he walked up to me and said, “you don’t like me, do you?”
I said, “No, I don’t.”
He was in shock. He certainly wasn’t expecting that answer. I think his attitude was that it wasn’t politically correct for a white person to say such a thing.
It didn’t happen overnight, but he did change his attitude over the next few weeks. I think he respected my honesty. We had a good and friendly relationship after that.
I’m not saying this will work with everyone, but I do think that most people respect honesty. I think most people do NOT respect people who are afraid of them. And being afraid to speak honestly is a form of fear.
well, by saying that you simply showed you liked the other black kids, and the problem was just him. It must have shocked him indeed that not all blacks are the same in your eyes. If you had been a hypocrite like a liberal, he would have seen it and he would have kept playing and dragged the whole lot of them into the self hate and demoralization.
What is amazing is the new mutual exclusiveness, this hate of the other. Just because I am not black, I suddenly cannot become a good doctor for blacks! So, like Nazi Germany, we become segregated through PC.
Cosby said it best when he said he did not want to be taken care by a doctor in black culture, but by a straight scientist. Can you imagine how demoralizing it is for a wealthy black man to be denied proper health care because some trash got through with affirmative action! It is horrible,