"The scene at Harrisburgh(sic) the next morning was refreshing. The information had been given under an injuction of secrecy to the TIMES and one other journal; at half past ten or eleven o'clock, of the night which Mr. Lincoln left the city.
And later in the story:
"On the special train which left Harrisburgh(sic) promptly at nine in the morning, were all who had originally compsed the presidential party, with the exception of Mr. Lincoln, his immediate friend, COL. LAMON, who accompanied him on the night ride, and N.B. JUDD, who preferred to take the early morning route to Baltimore via Philadelphia."
So your own New York by God Times correspondent make it clear that Lincoln was not on the train when Mrs. Lincoln left, was, in fact, in Washington, and this information was known.
No. He wasn't on the train which left Harrisburg, because he abandoned it the night before ("at half past ten or eleven o'clock"). That "special train" was the one that was thought might be attacked.
Mr. Lincoln left the train Thursday night. Mrs. Lincoln left Harrisburg on Friday morning and arrived in Baltimore midday Friday. She " she felt anxious concerning the fate of her husband," because he wouldn't arrive in Washington until Saturday morning. He was NOT in Washington when Mrs. Lincoln left Harrisburg.
I guess you also don't think "Honest Abe" stood up Mary Todd on their first appointed wedding date either. Edgar Lee Masters writes in Lincoln, The Man:
The wedding was finally fixed to take place on January 1, 1841, at the Edwards mansion, and great preparations were made for the event. The rooms were decorated, the cakes baked. By the time the hour arrived Mary Todd was dressed in her bridal gown and veil, with flowers in her hair, waiting for Lincoln. But he did not come. An hour slipped by, and messengers were sent forth into the town to find him. They returned with word that he could not be found. Finally Mary Todd gave up and went weeping to her room. The guests departed. The lights in the mansion were blown out, and all was in darkness.They got married on November 4, 1842.
What a swell guy!
ML/NJ