“An ex-girlfriend from years ago would always seem to complain or be somewhat rude to the wait staff even if they were doing a fine job. Kinda bugged me out.”
When a Young Man (which I once was) an Old Guy (which I am now) gave me some very sage advice regarding women: “Watch how they treat store clerks, wait staff, house cleaners, etc. THAT’s how they will treat YOU once they figure they’ve got you.” Could not be more true. Look for kindness, grace, and true class over ANY other attributes, Young Men.
I’ve always tried to instruct my kids: Someone who treats you nice, but is rude to others, is not a nice person.
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In the nineteenth century Charles Haddon Spurgeon was a leading preacher in England. The following passage appeared in a sermon that he delivered in 1876. QI believes that the central theme of the adage was prefigured in the words of Spurgeon [MTCS]: I think you may judge of a man’s character by the persons whose affection he seeks. If you find a man seeking only the affection of those who are great, depend upon it he is ambitious and self-seeking; but when you observe that a man seeks the affection of those who can do nothing for him, but for whom he must do everything, you know that he is not seeking himself, but that pure benevolence sways his heart.
http://quoteinvestigator.com/2011/10/28/judge-character/