Yes, but you will only find out if it was or wasn’t love in hindsight, based on that test.
I echo what another poster said, that not everybody is supposed to be married. Some are given the gift of celibacy. And being glad for your station in life is important. So none of this is try to tell you what you should do in your life.
But it does seem that you are cynical about the existence of real love, and I wanted to share with you a song that Don Francisco sang for his wife at their wedding, because it explains why I believe we CAN know it’s love even in the middle of it (not just in hindsight) It also speaks to the eternal nature of love, and how the love outlasts even the marria ge, as you mentioned:
I Could Never Promise You (by Don Francisco)
I could never promise you, on just my strength alone,
That all my life I’d care for you, and love you as my own.
I’ve never known the future; I only see today.
Words that last a lifetime would be more than I can say.
But the love inside my heart today is more than mine alone.
It never changes, neeifa isee,kefai,efai,efai,efai,e (Sorry; I’ll leave that so a computer stud can figure out why my computer froze up, typed that, and then wouldn’t let me input anything until I restarted my computer and restored this page)
OK - again -
But the love inside my heart today is more than mine alone.
It never changes, never fails, never seeks its own.
And by the God who gives it, and who lives in me and you,
I know the words I speak today are words I’m going to do.
And so I stand before you now, for all to hear and see
And promise you in Jesus’ name the love He’s given me.
And through the years on earth and as eternity goes by,
The life and love He’s given us are never going to die.
The life and love He’s given us are never going to die.