Yes, I think the kids do instinctively know that they’ve been lied to.
Pornography... “it is not what you think it is”.
I was always amazed about how we got laws against domestic violence negating consent of the abused not applying to some of the vile sex acts depicted.
What is weirder is when confronting the most at risk in that domain, women that is. I found many liberal women giving me excuses from “addiction” to “it is OK, just sex”.
The disillusion is in fact shared by many boys... and the hypocrisy and secrecy abounds... until they find their own mother used them because their siblings were aborted prior or after.
Let that sink in.