[riverdawg]

“The biggest thing to know about asking somebody out on a date is that it’s no big deal. Really worst case scenario is they say no, not much of an impact. If they say no in a way that’s mean or rude that’s actually a good thing, you’ll be better off without them.”

I was almost paralyzed with fear before asking a girl out when I was in high school, even if her best friend had already told me she would say yes.

“Second biggest thing to know is that dating actually kind of sucks.”

I really enjoyed dating when I was a teenager, except for the initial fear of being turned down for that first date. I did not enjoy dating as an adult, in the “re-entry” market, however.

[discostu]

I was afraid of it in my youth. It’s really in retrospective that I realize it was dumb and a little bit of rejection just isn’t a big deal. Of course then it was made worse once I found out just how uncomfortable I was in a dating environment, suddenly then rejection wasn’t the worst thing that could happen.

I’d hate to be back on the market again, but at least I’d know my goal: no dates, only women whose idea of a good time is finding someplace to kick back and chat for 3 or 4 hours.