The war presently is not the same. Saddam is gone. That was what the war was about.
The current war is been building since 1918 or so when the artificial nation of Iraq was established by the British. There re lots of very old scores to be settled. That effort is now underway and visible.
It is not true your son died in vain. Saddam is gone and not a threat
background here http://www.freerepublic.com/focus/news/3166882/posts
You’re one of few who realizes it was two wars: one to depose Saddam, another to fill the power vacuum. Mission accomplished on the first; Obama handed the second to his allies.
IMPEACH!
Clarification — it was the son of a close friend of my wife.