Posted on 04/22/2014 8:56:25 AM PDT by Tolerance Sucks Rocks
PING!
I had a boss who was a bully. I worked for him for a total of two months.
So undoubtedly the solution to this age-old problem is to pass a slew of feel-good laws that will severely restrict freedoms, cost millions of dollars, and fail to affect the problem in any way.
How about returning to a moral society, say one in which some rule like “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you” is taught? That might have a more lasting effect than massive government involvement.
Be a whining loser forever! You got bullied. Better go on some psych drugs. And hide in your room. You got bullied!! Stop the presses.
Jeez. Get over it you pansies.
I have two questions...one serious, and one semi-serious:
1) With all of the anti-bullying efforts happening, all of the protection and shielding that we're giving children ... how will they ever learn to cope with difficult people at a later stage in life? I forese, in the near future, adults needing mediators to see who gets the last parking spot at the mall, to adjudicate against those who cut in line at a movie theater, and so on.
2) Does all this intolerance of bullies, amount to bullying in itself? Bullies have a right to their own individualism, too.
In fact, I think the argument could be made that many (most) of the people on an anti-bullying crusade would simultaneously think *nothing* of crucifying me for making an off-color joke, or a remark that could potentially be misconstrued as "racist", "sexist", or "homophobic".
Truly, the inmates are taking over the asylum.
Don’t forget, any “bully laws” will be automatically applied to anyone who doesn’t agree with leftists.
I was bullied in High School by a large fellow that took pot shots at me when I was not looking. He’s dead now. I’m not.
I’m no pansy, but I was mercilessly bullied by a couple of classmates who were bigger and more popular than me.
I don’t whine, take psych drugs nor did I hide in my room.
But to this day, if I ever come face to face with either of them, I’d probably beat them to within an inch of their life.
I won’t forget and still haven’t been able to achieve the forgiveness part of “forgive and forget”.
They essentially ruined some years of my childhood due to apprehension, fear, embarrassment and loathing because I wasn’t able to take them on one on one until a few years later. I decked one of them with a roundhouse punch and that was that with him. The other managed to avoid his “reward”.
But make no mistake, I don’t support any “program” that “criminalizes” the behavior, but do support some means for the victim to be able to get even without repercussions.
Many kids today lack appropriate coping skills and when tired of it, resort to violence of the worst kind. I believe that a simple a$$ kicking of epic proportions, either by the victim or an advocate is in order.
“Don’t forget, any “bully laws” will be automatically applied to anyone who doesn’t agree with leftists.”
Bullying is quite harmful and I think it can have long term effects on a person and society ( although not the way this article puts it).
Trying to stop bullying is a good thing, but the current movement to do that is a scam.
It is really exactly for what you say above.
Translation: God is a bully... homosexual pedophiles who take children from their Father in Heaven are the heros.
The biggest contribution to bullying today is the kid being bullied is not allowed to defend himself. If some punk is pushing some kid around and the kid decks him, guess who’s in trouble.
Yes, but their bullying rights will end where there faces meet my fist. :-)
That and as I mentioned, lack of coping skills. I grew up in an era where people “earned” what was coming to them...that’s why I didn’t get in trouble. Everyone knew these two were bullies, but since they weren’t the target, it was of no concern to them.
Parenting has been turned over to socialist school “counselors” who work harder trying to get the victim to “understand” their oppressor rather than holding the oppressor accountable. Zero tolerance insanity is just that, insanity. History proves this policy to be beyond idiotic.
The victim, as mentioned upthread, is called a pansy or told to just “get over it”, but never allowed to get even or attempt to rectify the situation through proven means.
How many grade school, middle school or high school children have adequate coping skills for a situation like this? Not many I’d wager.
And the anger, frustration, fear, loathing, embarrassment, etc. are allowed to fester, grow until there is just a feeling of hopelessness.
Any traumatic event in a young person’s life will stay with them forever. But, that does not translate into it being something dreadful for their later lifetime.
Some events are part of the maturation process, including the schoolyard bullies, cliques, etc. Sometimes I think we make more of these things than is necessary. Of course, I am speaking from a youth that took place in more civilized times for children.
I lost my Dad when I turned 11 years of age. It was a sudden natural death from a heart attack. It was traumatic, and I still carry some emotional scars from that event. When I lost my Mom, who lived to be 94 years of age, I was prepared and did not suffer much separation anxiety at all, as I knew she was where she wanted to be. Still, when I think of my Dad’s death, I cry a little inside of me for the pain of it.
I learned in the 4th grade that the best solution to a bully was a 2x4 up the side of the head.
The bully moves on to easier meat, after that.
“But to this day, if I ever come face to face with either of them, I’d probably beat them to within an inch of their life.”
Ran into one of those at my High School reunion a few years ago. After about 90 minutes, he reverted to type, to which I replied, “How about I just rip out your f-in throat, instead?”
He never said a word to me, the rest of the night.
BTTT
How about returning to a moral society, say one in which some rule like “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you” is taught? That might have a more lasting effect than massive government involvement."
Well said sir.
Female bullies operate differently. The bullies in my HS class are in charge of the reunion stuff. 30 years since I graduated, never been invited to a reunion.
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