I can’t imagine how horrible it must be to be the parent of a mass murderer.
As for the divorce, mother had apparently decided they were just picking on her baby and even though she was afraid of him, she absolutely refused outside help and that was one of the things that led to the divorce (according to press reports at the time). I think he’s being very gentlemanly in not mentioning this.
Mothers can do this. They feel guilty for having a child with problems and then go into denial and also become extremely defensive, shutting out not only teachers and professionals, but even their husbands.
IIRC, she was in the process of trying to have him committed when he exploded. She had jumped through several hoops and had more hoops to go to get him placed in a hospital without his consent. He murdered her first.
You are correct. As my mother used to say: “Where oh where would you find a mother who would trade her boobie for another.” She was referring to the mother of my now dead brother-in-law. He could have easily been a variation of Adam Lanza, yet his mother was in absolute denial about how defective he was. The world is much better off without him.
Given the circumstances, that motherhood bond is something that is very hard for me to understand.
I can’t imagine how horrible it must be to be the parent of a mass murderer.I feel sorry for him. It must weigh on him heavily.
As for the divorce, mother had apparently decided they were just picking on her baby and even though she was afraid of him, she absolutely refused outside help and that was one of the things that led to the divorce (according to press reports at the time). I think he’s being very gentlemanly in not mentioning this.Indeed he is. He was probably shut all the way out of any ability to help Adam; vengeful divorced parents will do that. And it's obvious Mrs Lanza was not all quite there either. All in all, it's just a sad tale.