The whole mental premise stems from protecting one’s pride. They know what they are doing is not right or safe, but they can't stop it, because if they do, they will be reduced to tears, while being unable to handle what they fear will be an unexciting life of chastity as they stop their previously self-destructive ways.
Really sad, isn’t it? Because they have no values, they don’t want anyone else to have values/virtue either.
Thing is, that sometimes I think (please don’t flame me) that women who are assaulted feel like they can never be good women again. Sometimes conservatives hype virginity to the point where there might be an underlying message that somehow if you are raped, you are ‘ruined’ and now a kind of tainted goods. So they aren’t virgins, ‘good girls,’ but are in fact trash. So they give up on themselves and fall into sexual promiscuity.
I remember a minister went to Elizabeth Smart and told her while she was getting treatment that she was still ‘pure in the eyes of the Lord’ and I think that is how she managed to put the pain behind her and avoid stigmatizing herself (or being stigmatized by other people however unwittingly).
The one thing I do know is that I am sick and tired of damaged women doing harm to other women by trying to drag them into their life where they are working their issues they have in a way that just sexualizes them even more. They want other women to join their sick little world. They develop a sick fascination with the sexuality and seem to WANT to see rape/assault/molestation everywhere they can find it.
I could be wrong but I read somewhere that a common reaction to rape is to avoid any kind of sexual contact with men because it reminds them of their traumatic experience. That makes more sense to me.