Thing is, that sometimes I think (please don’t flame me) that women who are assaulted feel like they can never be good women again. Sometimes conservatives hype virginity to the point where there might be an underlying message that somehow if you are raped, you are ‘ruined’ and now a kind of tainted goods. So they aren’t virgins, ‘good girls,’ but are in fact trash. So they give up on themselves and fall into sexual promiscuity.
I remember a minister went to Elizabeth Smart and told her while she was getting treatment that she was still ‘pure in the eyes of the Lord’ and I think that is how she managed to put the pain behind her and avoid stigmatizing herself (or being stigmatized by other people however unwittingly).
The one thing I do know is that I am sick and tired of damaged women doing harm to other women by trying to drag them into their life where they are working their issues they have in a way that just sexualizes them even more. They want other women to join their sick little world. They develop a sick fascination with the sexuality and seem to WANT to see rape/assault/molestation everywhere they can find it.
The other part of this is that sex can feel so good. The women become wired in a loop between feeling momentarily great (the orgasm or the power over the guy) and feeling empty.
To leave that loop means you are not only left empty, but are left to face the incredible, willful evil you’ve encouraged while bringing down the men and women who have been in your circle of influence.