[St_Thomas_Aquinas]

I was a dissociate. It took a lot of work, and years, to learn how to care.

Isn't this usually correlated with childhood abuse?

I once worked with a contractor who was a nervous wreck. I had long talks with him, and he told me about his abusive mother. The abuse was mental and emotional, more than physical. While she may not have been a formal satanist, I could only describe her behavior as satanic. She was about as mean as I can possibly imagine.

[Terry L Smith]

StThomasAquinas wrote:
“I was a dissociate. It took a lot of work, and years, to learn how to care.

Isn’t this usually correlated with childhood abuse?

I once worked with a contractor who was a nervous wreck. I had long talks with him, and he told me about his abusive mother. The abuse was mental and emotional, more than physical. While she may not have been a formal satanist, I could only describe her behavior as satanic. She was about as mean as I can possibly imagine.”

!!Very close, St.t.
Repressed, or as once known ‘teenage anger’, can, until it is known for what it is and what effects it wroughts, make someone a very nasty person.

Remember the cartoon of the shell of a man or woman, with what they really were saying, as a separate little man or woman inside them, and we thought that was funny? Now imagine the person, as described above, at the moment of inter-human contact and dealings, with the inner person being in a leather jacket and an open switchblade in hand.
Get the picture?

The values that other kids get taught, become nothing more than ‘a repeat by rote, and they leave you alone’, which, until recently, even included Boy Scout values. They believe none of it, because what they are being told, is not what is going on. That includes church, for some of them! (Go tell your local clergyman THAT, and see how angry they get.)

You can see why ‘a lot of work’, and a lot of it won’t get fixed in a therapist’s office. There is a story about someone I met, attempting to feed their “counselor”, (for lack of their attested title) through a shut ‘chicken-wired-window’.

Only when ‘ a moment of clarity’ or ‘a personal epiphany’ happens, can the work start.