Been my position for a good many years.
You wanna win?
If you have the ability to change the rules of engagement while still able to achieve and control the outcome then why not.
If the government has the power to sanction and define then remove their ability.
Gays want to “Marry”? Let em but, only under the rubric and authority only feeble minded bureaucrats can conjur up.
Which means they are married and fully legal, in other words, you just came out for gay marriage.