You can marry without making it legal, why don’t you?
I keep pointing out that if you don’t want a legal marriage, then don’t bother with the laws, people do it all the time.
I’m already married in according to the state (for now), but if I had to do it over again, I wouldn’t bother with the state. I would still be married in the ONLY way it counts - by God.
And we keep pointing out that state sanction does not make a Marriage.