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And When I Die
Townhall.com ^ | January 19, 2014 | Bruce Bialosky

Posted on 01/20/2014 1:25:59 PM PST by Kaslin

There is a subject that I don’t really think about and don’t really want to – dying. But I recently turned 60 years old and know that, not being 18 years old, dying is sooner for me than for someone that age. So I spent some time struggling with the issue.

Part of the reason I have not focused much on the subject of death is because of my religion. Sure I have had my losses -- grandparents, mother, father, brother and friends -- and as a Jew we honor our deceased loved ones with a prayer near the end of every religious service – The Kaddish. But I am thinking more about what happens to me. After all, I only know being alive in this world. Even though I am quite happy with my life and all the joys I have had, my question became: “Is this all there is?”

I spoke to a favorite Rabbi about the subject. He educated me as to why we as Jews don’t focus on an afterlife. He said many people believe that Judaism does not believe in the afterlife, but he stated they were not accurate. He said while some might believe otherwise, Judaism doesbelieve in the afterlife though the religion focuses on life on earth and what you do while you are here. That is where the emphasis has been placed.But the Talmud speaks of “The world to come.” In essence there is a hereafter and your soul returns to God.

But that is a belief and the problem is what do we really know? I first spoke to Betty Ferrell, the author of ten books, who has been doing palliative care (in short, taking care of very sick people) for 30 years. She stated she has spent time with about 1,000 different people at or near death. Ms. Ferrell spoke of how often those people were communicating with someone from the past who had died. She had witnessed hundreds of apparent communications with people in the afterlife.

Yet that has its limited value to skeptics and gave me only marginal comfort. There are countless books about near-death experiences and people coming back from beyond describing their personal connection with the hereafter, but one has grabbed people more than anyone else – written by Dr. Eben Alexander.

Dr. Alexander has been a noted neurosurgeon for over 25 years. He was truly a man of science and not much of a religiously observant person until he had his own near-death experience which he details in his book, Proof of Heaven.

Out of nowhere Alexander contracted a rare illness. He was in a coma for a week and his loving family was being advised by his medical team (as you can imagine he had the best care one could get) that it was time to pull the plug. The part of his brain that controls his thought and emotions was gone. Then out of the blue he awoke. Over an extended period of time his full memory returned and he became fully cognizant in all aspects and has returned to his prior life.

In his book Dr. Alexander vividly describes his near-death experience and his life in the world beyond. His retention of his cross over into the afterlife is quite detailed. But the more important part of the book is what this previously non-believer did after reawakening from his coma to confirm to himself that what he remembered was not just a dream or in some other form non-real. He did a complete medical analysis and consulted with multiple experts on brain activity.He concluded that his brain was completely shut down; and, therefore, he had to be in the afterlife.

I interviewed Dr. Alexander.When asked what has changed for him since his book was published, he told me he now participates in organized religion. The heart of the interview focused on the naysayers about his account since his experience has become well-known and his book a bestseller. He stated “Critics don’t seem to have read the book.” They apparently are not citing what medical evidence Alexander presents in the book. He revisited with me his scientific efforts to disprove that he had visited the afterlife and he still concludes he cannot disprove it.

Dr. Alexander described such a wonderful existence in the hereafter I had to ask him why he came back and whether he has thought about going back to the other side. He told me that he came back and remains here because of his family and particularly his young son (he has an older son becoming a doctor) who he feels still need him.

All this has led me to examine my own thinking about what will happen to me. I know that I am healthy and look forward to many years on this planet. I have had a wonderful life and remain confident I will have many years of that same wonderful life or even better. But back to where I started -- all I know is this world and it seems such a shame that I will only have another 15, 20, or 30 years to enjoy the beauty of being – to share time with my wonderful wife, children and friends, to read books or to listen to music, to go to a Broadway musical or see a baseball game.

I don’t know if there is an afterlife, but I sure hope there is and I hope it as wonderful as what was described by Dr. Alexander. I do know that I don’t plan on finding out for a long, long while. And when I do, Laura Nyro will be my guiding light:

I'm not scared of dying,
And I don't really care.
If it's peace you find in dying,
Well then let the time be near.
If it's peace you find in dying,
And if dying time is near,
Just bundle up my coffin
'Cause it's cold way down there.
I hear that its cold way down there.
Yeah, crazy cold way down there.

Chorus:

And when I die, and when I'm gone,
There'll be one child born

In this world to carry on,
to carry on.


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To: Bloody Sam Roberts

I don’t fear death either but I do fear being incapacitated and not being able to take care of myself. My mother had a series of strokes and lived for 5 years and could do nothing for herself. I pray that when God takes me that He takes me quickly.


21 posted on 01/20/2014 2:04:45 PM PST by Ditter
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To: Kaslin

I’ve always focused more on the biological imperative of living.

Without an instinctive passion to live, or an instinctive fear of death, no complex life form could have survived on Earth until fairly recent times.

In other words, if “this” life was not the most important thing in “your” life, you would have no life at all for very long.

I’m 63, and it would be really nice to know - empirically “know” - what happens next.

But that’s not going to happen, so I’m going to die as quietly as I can, and try not to be a nuisance to anyone.

The physical decline makes me sad.

I’ve been a lifelong runner, but, regardless of dedication, the human body will slowly but surely erode away.

Anyway, wherever I end up, I just hope it’s going to be a fair fight.


22 posted on 01/20/2014 2:05:26 PM PST by zeestephen
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To: CatherineofAragon

Glad to hear he’s OK.


23 posted on 01/20/2014 2:06:12 PM PST by Georgia Girl 2 (The only purpose of a pistol is to fight your way back to the rifle you should never have dropped.)
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To: Bloody Sam Roberts
I have Idiopathic Pulmonary Fibrosis. This is a terminal disease for which there is no treatment. I am not afraid of dying either, but smothering to death isn't a great deal of fun.
24 posted on 01/20/2014 2:07:03 PM PST by Coldwater Creek (")
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To: Elsie

Amen Elsie ... Amen!!! May we have every day!!! And may those tears be washed away!!!


25 posted on 01/20/2014 2:09:50 PM PST by no-to-illegals (Scrutinize our government and Secure the Blessing of Freedom and Justice)
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To: Elsie

NO to Sister Act one two or three or anything associated with Whoopie, seven abortions, Goldberg.


26 posted on 01/20/2014 2:11:12 PM PST by Mercat
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To: July4

In her last hours, my mother was laughing and joking with those who had already passed. Her last words were, “Open up this door, I’m coming in.”


27 posted on 01/20/2014 2:12:08 PM PST by Mercat
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To: July4
When my Grandmother was a little girl, travel from her rural home to the nearby town for supplies was a two-day trip with her “Pa” by horse and wagon, an adventure she always remembered with great pleasure. As she lay dying (in her nineties), her last words were, “It's Pa! And he's coming for me in the wagon!”

The story brought a tear to my eye, then again, I lost my mother on November 18th.

She had inflammatory breast cancer, very aggressive and triple negative (resistant to all chemo drugs) so it took her life. It spread to her brain and on the last day of her life, she went into a coma. I told her my goodbyes as she lay in bed and how much I loved her and thanked her for everything. I said to her, "I have to go, time to feed the kitties." I wasn't there when she passed, a side of me wishes I could been there but then again, maybe it would have been worse for me. Still, I felt good to say my parting goodbyes and so on. I'm sure she is in Heaven now with her sister, parents, friends and pets that have passed on. I miss her deeply but there are times I feel she is close to me and still "advises" and guides me when I ask for help.
28 posted on 01/20/2014 2:20:49 PM PST by Nowhere Man (Mom I miss you! (8-20-1938 to 11-18-2013) Cancer sucks)
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To: Georgia Girl 2

Thank you, Georgia Girl


29 posted on 01/20/2014 2:22:06 PM PST by CatherineofAragon ((Support Christian white males----the architects of the jewel known as Western Civilization.))
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My prayer ... May we each go naturally.


30 posted on 01/20/2014 2:32:44 PM PST by no-to-illegals (Scrutinize our government and Secure the Blessing of Freedom and Justice)
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To: Mercat

I’ll go there ... May have been a last for the Whoopie! That door on the Right Look Great!!!


31 posted on 01/20/2014 2:34:22 PM PST by no-to-illegals (Scrutinize our government and Secure the Blessing of Freedom and Justice)
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To: Bloody Sam Roberts; caww; SZonian; Godzilla; MHGinTN; Tennessee Nana; Grig; restornu; Normandy; ...
Something like that can curdle your milk and leave you in a non-optimum state.

Indeed!


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7GSZ3i5qwIQ
 
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b2pjdAFLsWw
 
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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1nTI7ZWCBE8    Whosoever drinks the water that I give him; will never thirst again.
 
 
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0nJ6wQpLmuo   Come to me, all you who are weary, and I shall give you rest.
 
 
 

32 posted on 01/20/2014 2:35:51 PM PST by Elsie (Heck is where people, who don't believe in Gosh, think they are not going...)
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To: Bloody Sam Roberts

It ain’t death. It’s dying.


33 posted on 01/20/2014 2:37:02 PM PST by onedoug
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To: Red Badger

2 Kings around chapter 20 also has the story.


34 posted on 01/20/2014 2:37:49 PM PST by Elsie (Heck is where people, who don't believe in Gosh, think they are not going...)
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To: Mercat

HE used a talking ass, He uses me (I hope!) and I’m sure that a Sinner like Whoopi can use a Touch of the Master’s hand as well!


35 posted on 01/20/2014 2:39:12 PM PST by Elsie (Heck is where people, who don't believe in Gosh, think they are not going...)
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To: Elsie
Never - EVER! - give up on somebody!
36 posted on 01/20/2014 2:41:47 PM PST by Elsie (Heck is where people, who don't believe in Gosh, think they are not going...)
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To: Elsie

May we each be used for our Father and Son ... Amen!!!


37 posted on 01/20/2014 2:42:40 PM PST by no-to-illegals (Scrutinize our government and Secure the Blessing of Freedom and Justice)
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To: Kaslin

I died to self when I was Baptized, and for those in Christ there is no second death - no judgement. And I’m ready - any time . . .


38 posted on 01/20/2014 2:52:15 PM PST by impactplayer
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To: Kaslin

I died to self when I was Baptized, and for those in Christ there is no second death - no judgement. And I’m ready - any time . . .


39 posted on 01/20/2014 2:52:37 PM PST by impactplayer
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To: Bloody Sam Roberts
I'm Henry VIII I Am
40 posted on 01/20/2014 2:57:40 PM PST by restornu
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