My personal feeling is this: Why not opt out of getting the marriage license, just file for the other benefits, some of which don’t have to do with marriage separately. Again, it’s also legit separation of church and state as well. I don’t have to consider the state licensing sacred, but rather secular, to me by doing it this way. More paperwork, sure. But faithful to my own beliefs, definitely.
because that doesn’t push forward the agenda of destroying the foundations of our society