Exactly right. “-phobia” is the incorrect suffix. The correct suffix would be “-sardony,” based on the Greek “sardonios,” meaning “scornful laughter.” So, “homosardony.”
“Homosardony”
I love it and might even try using it; this concept is a far more precise definition of the actual mindset of those of us skeptical of the homosexual act. The vast (99.9% I would even venture to guess) majority of us are not haters and those of us (myself included) who are Christian sincerely subscribe to the “Love the Sinner; Hate the Sin” position. Loving the sinner can and should include pointing out how unnatural homosexual deeds actually are in the factual sense.
Anti-homosexuals do not fear/hate - we are laughing scornfully at such an act being normalized. We are not laughing scornfully at the person - it is the behavior!