Posted on 11/29/2013 4:25:00 AM PST by Libloather
An Ohio couple committed a crime when they recently gave child welfare officials a 9-year-old boy they raised from infancy, according to a prosecutor, after they said he was displaying aggressive behavior and threatened the family with a knife.
Forty-nine-year-old Cleveland Cox and 52-year-old Lisa Cox pleaded not guilty Wednesday in a Butler County court to charges of nonsupport of dependents.
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Adolfo Olivas, an attorney appointed by the court to protect the boy's interests, has said the emotionally hurt and confused child is now receiving help that the parents should have gotten for him.
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Ha. Not a keeper. Oops! Can the parents get a do over?
Maybe they could take out a restraining order....
The adoption agency could be sued for defective product
Adoptions can work - but time commitments to therapy and having an open mind on expectations - but a well regulated and organized home will get these children past the point of being rejected by their birth parents and accept they are in the best place they can be...
For anyone interested and want to pass along here are a few links:
http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2566997/
http://www.bloomingtonmeadows.com/
http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/reactive-attachment-disorder/DS00988
And seek therapist that are trained and know about RAD.
Better to return to orphanages where children at least had some stability.
I have posted this before but will again. One of my friends adopted a child from Russia. The child’s and bio mother’s medical histories were hidden. The child was dropped at birth, suffering a severe brain injury. The mother received no prenatal care and drank heavily throughout her pregnancy. The son, adopted at 3 years, has SEVERE autism and my friend is all alone in handling him as her husband, the one who insisted on the adoption, bolted. The son is now a man, 16, and is over 6 ft, weighing about 250 lbs.
I beg all of you to not be judgemental. You have no idea what some of these adoptive families are going through and their options are very limited.
So you are saying she made a bad decision.
There is no such thing as being a victim of your own bad decision.
Hmmm - how about when another "partner" held sway ...my friend is all alone in handling him as her husband, the one who insisted on the adoption, bolted.
I guess absolutism works great as an "ideal", but never passes muster when humans interact.
No. She can give up custody.
The couple feels it did its duty, and the child is ungrateful. What is the solution? Taking him to Jesus; did they do that?
When a child has been abandoned and brutalized, there is often not enough help in the world for him. Sometimes the only thing that can be done is institutionalization.
No judgments here. Something similar happened about a decade ago in the DFW area. A couple had adopted an infant from one of the local, well-known adoption agencies. All was good until the parents noticed some developmental delays in the child. A thorough exam revealed the child was microcephalic, the brain was SIGNIFICANTLY smaller than normal. Further testing revealed the child’s brain would be unlikely to develop much more, resulting in significant, pervasive and lifelong disabilities. The adoption agency was fully aware of this medical condition at the time the couple adopted the child and withheld the information from the prospective parents. The parents went to court and sued to have the adoption nullified. The adoption agency fought the lawsuit but eventually agreed to take the child back.
A great many people condemned the actions of the couple. I could not. They did not have the financial means to provide the lifelong care this child was going to require. If they had been advised about the medical condition prior to the adoption being finalized, that is one thing. Concealment of pertinent facts essential to an informed decision by the adoption agency is quite another.
Fetal Alcohol Syndrome often doesn’t show its full ugly head until the age of 10. Sure, there are difficulties before then, but once the brain is trying to grow (but isn’t because the alcohol exposure programmed the brain cells to commit suicide) and the body is getting bigger and strong, the once manageable child is now, literally, a monster. Not even perfect parenting can make FAS kids turn out “right”.
As someone else said, the child may be better off in the orphanage where there is structure and a limited environment; but not Russian orphanages where, in the past, at least, children deemed not teachable are sent to a building to be drugged up and tied up until they die.
Those who judge without knowledge are a part of the problem.
Government making crimes out of things that are not crimes. No surprise there.
“I beg all of you to not be judgemental. You have no idea what some of these adoptive families are going through and their options are very limited.”
I have a co-worker who adopted a girl from Russia. She has severe behavioral problems that have been ongoing for years and causing severe strains at home and affected his work. At times I thought he was going to go off the deep end but I think it’s gotten better now. He is very lucky to have excellent health care.
To whom?
You make some valid points. This child clearly has some serious problems, problems that many parents are not equipped to handle.
Well, who would get the child if she died?
Wait, they raised him from infancy and now want to blame his behavior on what again?
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